Broken People Trying to Fix Broken People
Written by Temitope on June 16, 2021
I got into a conversation with someone recently about having an accountability partner. Her submission on the topic really humbled me, more because I have been a culprit as well.
It is a good thing to want to help people, but, like Jesus said, “you don’t try to help someone take off the speck in their eye when you’ve got a log in yours”. You’ll only end up making matters worse.
I have tried helping others fix their own problems while I am still struggling with mine, it hasn’t always ended well.
Some are of the opinion that, in trying to help others with their problems, you could be indirectly helping yourself in fixing yours. I totally agree with this. And this is why my focus is not on “wanting to help”, but on “you admitting that you also need help”.
Apparently, most people that want to help tend to live in self-denial. Not acknowledging their own weaknesses or struggles, always trying to play the part. Perhaps for the fear of letting people down, they hide so perfectly from others, they cannot also see themselves.
When you sincerely admit your own flaws, weaknesses and struggles, you give yourself and those around you the opportunity to see yourself clearly – knowing when you can offer help, and when it is beyond your current capacity.
I know that we can do all things through Christ… But doing all things does not include pulling others further down the slippery road of struggles.
It does not surprise me, but it hurts a lot to see prominent people try to portray the perfect life while they are still dealing with their struggles.
God knows I am not perfect… I even try to emphasize it, perhaps more than I should. But I would rather acknowledge my weaknesses than living in a feigned impression of strength that has no value.
No doubt, people will be disappointed – a major symptom of a world that believes everyone should be perfect, even though they struggle with perfection. Other people’s distractions should not take you away from your goal, however.
In the end, we are simply messengers, with a message to make the world a better place, starting with ourselves.
The more sincere we are with ourselves, the more we give ourselves to working on ourselves, the better we become, and it becomes easier to help those with the same or similar struggles.