The Mistakes That Haunt Us
Written by Temitope on June 21, 2021
Recently, a friend of mine asked me to choose between going back to 10 years ago with the same knowledge that I have now, and going 10 years into the future with a certain amount of money.
The hardworking part of me was going to go back to 10 years ago with the same knowledge I have now. My thought was that I could probably make much more than I would make in 10 years time if I choose the money instead. More importantly, there were some mistakes that would not exist anymore.
At this point, I asked myself; what is the guarantee that if you go back to 10 years before now, you won’t make the same mistake or new ones?
I really could not answer.
You know how easy it is to say that you will not make the same mistake twice, but you find yourself making that mistake over again, sometimes without even realizing it?
If I am not sure I would be able to avoid those mistakes, there is no need going back then. It is far better to learn from the mistakes already made, in order to influence the future positively.
Mistakes are like thorns in our side, we feel like we are stuck with them and they with us, so we have to live with them.
However, I have been learning recently that no matter how stubborn a thorn is, it can be removed. It might just hurt more. This is that part where we learn to let go of our past mistakes.
In a lot of ways, we are defined by our past, however, alone, the effect is little to non-existent. But combined with decisions and actions, the effect can span decades and generations.
I hate mistakes, I hate making them. Mistakes make me feel so much less of myself – I am not good enough, perhaps the world would be better without me.
These thoughts actually prevent me from seeing what is on the other side.
I remember the story of Peter who was so confident that he would not betray Jesus. When he did, he was so hurt, broken, depressed, but not without hope.
Hope takes our misses, and turns them to much more gain.
So, for you who is struggling with your past mistakes, stop dwelling on the past, stop pampering it. Nothing you do today can change yesterday, but the decisions and actions taken today can influence the future.
The mistakes that haunt us can also make us better.